the life-changing magic of being a mess 🌪️
I've had a messy mind for most of this month.
Yep, for weeks now, my headspace has been swirly whirly foggy unsure.
It's been hard for me to know what I really want. And thus to make decisions. And therefore to get traction on some important projects.
Time kept on slippin into the future, and I just slipped along with it.
Truthfully: it's been quite unpleasant.
I'd much rather be striding purposefully through my life, rather than meandering in my brain fog.
And/but:
While I lost my way for a minute there, I did NOT lose my self-trust.
(I have a daily practice that keeps me grounded, no matter what.)
And thankfully, I was able to remember that often, this messy headspace full of:
I don't know what to do
I'm not sure what I want
I can't decide what's next
Who even am I anyway?
This headspace, while uncomfortable, isn't a problem. Not at all.
It's actually a sign of profound evolution.
All this uncertainty is very like the mess that erupts in the first stages of cleaning out a closet, or renovating a kitchen.
It means that we're actively clearing out the old (beliefs, habits, approaches, identity) to make room for the new.
The more we're willing to sit in the mess and fog - to be with and sort through all the mixed feelings and uncertainties - the more effectively we're able to identify what we really DON'T want. And what, exactly, is NOT working.
And it's only when we've sorted out the undesirable and unaligned that we can move forward with confidence and integrity.
I know from helping myriad clients through it, and (again and again and just this month), I know from doing it my own damb self.
So. If you've got swirly whirly mind mess when it comes to what's next for your work / relationship / health / home / happiness?
Please don't try to cram all your doubts and fears and desires into the back of your mind.
Sit with them.
Sort through them.
Trust this part of your evolutionary process.
Take time to get really clear and aligned, so you can fully inhabit your next level.
Be with your mess of uncertainties, or you'll (re)create a mess of undesirables.
Ask me how I know.
Love,
Natalie