You, alone, can't fix it.
First of all: THANK YOU.
After I wrote last week
of my Dad's passing,
my inbox was like this:
I appreciate you!!
NOW
Let's talk about the serious drawback
to being a kickass
super-capable
hold-myself-to-high-standards
kind of person.
I find
when we're used to being badass
at most things we do,
we can begin to believe
that making things work
is entirely up to us.
No one else can do it as well as I can,
we think.
I have to make the right decision,
we heft onto our shoulders.
I alone can fix it.
. . .
Oh wait.
That one sounds familiar.
Friends: that's what our disgusting president once said.
I alone can fix it.
That is b u l l s h i t,
and we must steer clear of it.
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What is truer
and much more empowering
is this:
We co-create reality.
It's never all up to one person.
We cannot fix anything -
a relationship,
a work situation,
a health problem,
a financial trouble,
by ourselves.
When we make a choice,
we aren't single-handedly
deciding the path ahead.
What happens next
is never entirely up to us.
We live on planet Earth,
where chance and luck
and maybe fate
and certainly other humans
all play a role.
So
if you're currently agonizing over
Making the Right Choice
or
Fixing the Relationship
or
Solving the Problem,
please give yourself a break.
Remember it's not all up to you.
You are powerful
YES
but none of us are doing this alone.
So
Instead of How Do I Fix It?,
ask yourself these:
What do I value?
What's the contribution I want to make?
Who and what can support me in this co-creation?
And then take one small step
in one of those directions.
And maybe also have a cookie.