Invest in pleasure, and pleasure will invest in you

Good morning, lovelies,

Today I'm sharing my number one
tip top
hell yes
most empowering
hardest but best
lesson from 2019:

Pleasure is paramount.

Why is that so hard?

Because we've been conditioned to believe

that women's desire is very problematic.

Selfish.

Dangerous.

This makes sense, because desire

(or as our friend Walt Whitman called it

Urge and urge and urge
Always the procreant urge of the world)

is world-creating,

and the racist patriarchy prefers to dictate world creation

in its own interests.

Soooo, it authorizes only one desire in women:

the desire to please and serve others.

Fuck that.

This year, I've discovered,

the more I invest in my pleasure

the more power that pleasure invests in me.

Try it.

Treat yourself like an empress

and watch your power grow.

Anoint yourself in potions that please you

and see how people are drawn to your energy.

Eat appreciatively and generously

and feel how vital you are.

Buy yourself flowers,

light candles because it's Monday afternoon,

wear soft and supple clothes always.

Sweat. Soak. Sauna. Shower. Sleep.

Have extra fries,
cat naps,
evening stretches,
and bomb-ass orgasms.

Prioritize delighting in your body,

and have faith as your life breaks open

to make the space you need to blossom.

(And yes, it will need to break open,

but you already know that,

so stop resisting already.)

Let's goooooooo

We have a human-honoring, woman-pleasing world to create,

and you fulfilling your desires

is the fuel for the fire

that burns down everything that stands in our way.