⚡ FAAFO ⚡
Trying to please everyone while making self-honoring changes in your life? It's
like threading a moving needle.
like walking a tightrope with hands tugging at your ankles.
like coloring inside the lines you're trying to expand beyond.
Yeah, ask me how I know.
And here's the thing, for those of us who tend to be over-responsible / over-performing / over-achieving:
we're so used to threading needles, walking tightropes, and abiding the lines, that the tautness entailed actually feels kinda right to us.
We have trained ourselves to be so very careful. To optimize plans and minimize disruptions. Even to make it look graceful and easy and sure.
But making changes - especially paradigm-shifting changes - is messy and feather-ruffling and experimental.
A certain recklessness is required.
(I typed “recklessness” and worried about it. Looked up three different definitions. Checked the etymology. Am I really saying we should care less? Think less? Be less considerate about the consequences of our actions?)
I think yes. Because all this over-caring, over-thinking, over-considering - all this fucking optimizing - simply reinforces the people-pleasing box it's high time we break out of.
So here's what I'm doing about this. Both personally, and in Cauldron, my group coaching circle.
I'm declaring it's time to Fuck Around & Find Out.
Time to just see what happens when we turn away from excelling, and toward experimenting.
Time to just see what happens when we stop trying to please everyone, and start allowing ourselves to plunge into self-honoring co-creation.
Time to ruffle some fucking feathers. Especially our own.